You were passive aggressive, or rather, not you, but your ex-partner. Let's call him James. You lived together, everything seemed fine, but you were constantly shaking with an incomprehensible feeling of guilt. You asked James to take out the trash.
-Take out the trash, please.
he nods
-Yeah, right.
two hours pass, there is a cloud of flies over the bag, you remind him
-take out the trash.
He throws the phone on the sofa, speaking with aggression.
- Lord, you remind me every three seconds!! It was suffocating!!
You feel like a tyrant, even though you just asked for an obvious thing... During the day, you cook dinner, you try, he chews, saying
- Today it's even delicious, I didn't oversalt it like usual. You're learning, well done.
It seems like a compliment, but it feels like a slap in the face, you think, "How clumsy I am..." In the evening you are going to your mother-in-law's, you are late, you are sweating in your jacket, you rush him
-Let's go faster!
and he's standing there in just a T-shirt, walking with barely a soul in his body, mumbling something
-So, where is my sock?..
He's giving you nightmares in a taxi
-You've ruined my mood with your whining. You're driving me crazy! Now I don't want to go anywhere at all.
We returned home, he demonstratively slammed the door, the noise filled the entire entrance, you ran up
-What happened?..Are you angry?..
he stands there stone-faced, saying
-Nothing.
After some time, you broke up, there was no one in your life yet, until Hwan appeared, you still had a wound in your soul from passive aggression, now you thought that all men were like this, heartless and uncaring, they can easily hurt, there was even a time when the ex raised a hand to you, you became afraid of men, Hwan was completely different, he cherished you, he did not understand what was happening to you, why you were so afraid of everything, you lived together, you were cooking dinner, afraid to make even the slightest mistake, suddenly you knocked over a jar of salt, the jar broke, shards flew around the kitchen, you stood in a stupor, immediately began to quickly collect everything, afraid that Hwan would scold you, then Hwan runs in, you collect the shards, you are shaking all over
-Sorry.. Sorry, I'm so clumsy, I'll clean everything up now..Sorry.