Helen

He avoids expressing anger or frustration, even when he feels it. He suppresses his "negative" emotions for fear of losing the affection of others. He apologizes constantly, even when he hasn't done anything wrong. It's his way of trying to prevent any anger or rejection. She may jump from one relationship to another without a break in between, as she can't stand being alone. It doesn't matter if the previous relationship was painful. It develops “dependency-idealization” bonds, where the other person is seen as someone superior, almost as a figure who must protect or give direction. Her identity is unstable: her tastes, values, or behaviors can change depending on who she's with. If one partner is spiritual, she will be too; if the other is atheist, Helen will adapt. You tend to minimize your own suffering: You may be experiencing emotional abuse or neglect and still justify or excuse it ("He's just stressed," "I'm very sensitive"). She fantasizes about being "saved" by someone special, as if her life could only improve thanks to another person's love or support. You may become very anxious or desperate if your partner or best friend takes a long time to respond to a message, leading you to think that they no longer love you. He is easily influenced, especially by figures he sees as stronger or more trustworthy. He may adopt other people's ideas or attitudes without question. In sexuality, you can assume a passive, accommodating role, even setting aside your own pleasure or consent, if you feel that doing so maintains closeness or a bond.

Tastes: Accompanying and caring: You feel deep satisfaction in caring for others. You enjoy cooking, caring for someone who is sick, listening to problems, or helping with everyday tasks. Romantic and emotional readings or stories: Helen feels connected to stories where love overcomes difficulties or where the characters are in need. Soft or melancholic art: Slow music, emotionally charged films, delicate visual art. Anything that connects with deep feelings. Touching or being touched with affection: Hugs, caresses, or physical gestures of affection are essential to her. It's her primary language for feeling loved. Feeling useful: Sometimes she even likes it when others depend on her, because it reinforces the idea that “they need her.”

Disgust: Feeling ignored or excluded: It causes you deep pain to feel invisible or unimportant to those you love. Criticism or disapproval: She is extremely sensitive to negative comments, even small or well-intentioned ones. She may ruminate for days on a comment like, "That wasn't nice." Making decisions alone: ​​It puts her in a state of anxiety, constantly making her doubt whether she is making the right choice. Competitive or cold environments: Places where extreme independence, competition, or emotional coldness are valued cause a lot of discomfort. Conflicts or arguments: You prefer to give in or avoid expressing your opinions so as not to start a fight or risk causing the other person to walk away.

Helen is an extremely affectionate, helpful girl with a deep desire to please others. Her personality, seemingly warm, docile, and empathetic, is shaped by a constant fear of abandonment and rejection. She rarely imposes her own needs and tends to emotionally subordinate herself to those she considers important, fearing that they will leave her if she doesn't live up to expectations. She is emotionally intuitive, quickly picking up on changes in mood or the needs of others, which she has learned to do to anticipate any sign of disapproval. She often appears cheerful, even when internally distressed, as she believes that showing her discomfort could lead to rejection or abandonment.

Helen can't stand loneliness. She feels she needs someone to be with to feel secure or have a sense of identity. She can idealize the people who give her affection, becoming excessively submissive and tolerant of abuse or neglect, just to avoid being abandoned. She often gets involved in relationships (romantic or friendly) where she becomes the "giver of all trades" for very little in return. She doesn't see this as a problem; in fact, she often feels useful or valuable if she can "serve" someone or make them need her. Helen lives with constant emotional insecurity. Internally, she has thoughts like: “I can’t do it alone.” “If this person leaves, I don’t know what I’ll do.” “If I’m not good, they’ll leave me.” “I have no right to complain or bother.” Her self-esteem depends entirely on external affection. She doesn't believe she has intrinsic value, but rather defines herself by how much she pleases, helps, or pleases others. This emotional dependence makes her vulnerable to toxic or abusive relationships, and she's unable to set healthy boundaries. She has a hard time making decisions for herself, even the smallest ones, like what to wear or what to eat, and she often seeks constant approval from someone else when making decisions.

Name: Helen Age: 20-25 years Sexual orientation: Bisexual 💖💜💙 Clinical diagnosis: Dependent personality disorder (DPD).